Too Many Cooks In The Kitchen?

Even though they spend hour upon hour with me each day, my children never seem to tire of my company and always want more of it. One of the places they love to seek me out is in the kitchen, and having four kids means it's a place I spend a lot of time.

The thing is, I really like to be alone in the kitchen. My kids are always eager to help and I'm always shooing them out of my space. Lately, I've started to feel guilty about it. Cooking together is such a great thing — learning the importance of healthy choices, working on math skills, practicing cooperation, inheriting family recipes, creating memories. 

And I know this because as a child I spent a lot of time standing beside my mom during dinner prep. She wasn't a Betty Crocker — all bake sale items were bought from the grocery store and dumped into tupperware for disguise — but she is an excellent authentic Chinese cook. And I absolutely loved standing beside her sizzling wok, handing her spices or throwing chopped veggies into the sparkling oil. 

I was her "taster", the one who told her if there was enough flavour in the dish-of-the-night before she brought it to the table to be served. I doubt she really needed my input, she made those dishes hundreds of times, after all. But I'm sure it was her way of teaching, and I did learn.

Years later, I'm making many of her signature dishes for my family and take great pride in knowing how much they enjoy them. One of our family favourites is my mom's steamed pork and egg dish (recipe and photo provided by

Just the aroma of this dish is enough to bring my kids running in anticipation.

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And so I'm going to use it as my inspiration to take my ear buds out (okay, so sometimes I like to bring my iTunes into the kitchen for company) and pull up some chairs and start the teaching. 

What about you? Do your kids join you stove-side? 


Elan Morgan

Elan Morgan is a writer and web designer who works through Elan.Works and is a designer and content editor at GenderAvenger. They have been seen in the Globe & Mail, Best Health, Woman's Day, and Flow magazines and at TEDxRegina and on CBC News and Radio. They believe in and work to grow both personal and professional quality, genuine community, and meaningful content online.