you have to let go of narcissism. you have to be forgiving and exercise humilty. you have to drop the expectation of change or perfection unless you are fully prepared to be able to hand those things over yourself. always want more for the other than you want for yourself, because like a gift it is so much more fulfilling to give than to receive and isn't that what we need in a long term relationship? fulfillment?
"if love is a labour, I'll slave 'til the end." Rise Against "Swing Away"