My Promise

Sunset

My little loves:

There are some ugly things happening in the world. You will read this post when those days are part of history. I'm not ready to talk to you about them yet.

I'd like to tell you a story about looking for the good instead. 

I was in grade two when our family moved to a new neighbourhood. It was the middle of a school year, so I was allowed to finish the year at my original school. The route I took to school led me down a long path and through a tunnel that ran underneath a busy road — to keep us safe from traffic. But I didn't feel safe when I walked through it. 

On the other side of that tunnel, there was a hang out for a group of older kids from a school across the field. At first, they just stared. Then they started to taunt. And then they shouted names at me. Chink. Stupid. Ugly. They wanted me to speak Chinese and pull the corners of my eyes tight, while they laughed and did the same. They threw rocks at me. 

Once I finally told my parents — and I was afraid to, because I knew it would hurt them so much — I didn't walk alone again. But I never stopped walking through that tunnel. There was a park on the other side where we loved to play. There were friends that lived at the top of the hill. There were good things waiting. So we kept going. Always together, but always just the same.

When you were born, I made a promise to surround you with different faces, religions, abilities, and disabilities — not to protect you from feeling different, but to show you we can be different and still the same. 

It's not about tolerance, my loves. It's about living with compassion and understanding — for your world and its people — before ignorance or fear or hate ruin the view. 

Always make the choice to look around the ugly to find the good.

On the other side of the tunnel, on the other side of the world.

In your own neighbourhood.

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Elan Morgan

Elan Morgan is a writer and web designer who works from Elan.Works, a designer and editor at GenderAvenger, and a speaker who has spoken across North America. They have been seen in the Globe & Mail, Best Health, Woman's Day, and Flow magazines, TEDxRegina, and on CBC News and Radio. They believe in and work to grow both personal and professional quality, genuine community, and meaningful content online.