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The other day there was some kind of #bestfriend day sweeping across social media, and I knew it would be hard for you. When you're 13, friends are complicated. 

Navigating these days and experiences with you has reminded me of my own feelings of wanting to belong and the sting of feeling like I didn't. I don't want you to go through those disappointments, and I wish I could make them go away. But I know it won't help you—it's an important part of learning about yourself and others.

I want to tell you this instead. 

Your friendships shouldn't be represented by a hashtag.

And I was proud of how you handled it.

That even as you felt excluded, you made a choice to be inclusive. 

So while I can't protect you, I can remind you: your most meaningful friendships will be found in the people who sit beside you when it's good and when it's hard.

Those relationships will not feel like work; they will feel as easy as breathing.

And they will fill you like a breath, too.

I know it's going to be hard to figure this out on your own, and I know it will hurt to be let down. 

But turn your heart to the moments and the people who lift you up. 

And then multiply those moments by one million and send them back into the universe. 

There will always be someone ready to catch one. 

There will always be someone who needs to catch one.

Look for those people.

They're looking for you, too. 





Elan Morgan

Elan Morgan is a writer and web designer who works from Elan.Works, a designer and content editor at GenderAvenger, and a speaker who has spoken across North America. They have been seen in the Globe & Mail, Best Health, Woman's Day, and Flow magazines, TEDxRegina, and on CBC News and Radio. They believe in and work to grow both personal and professional quality, genuine community, and meaningful content online.